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Can’t Say No! By Richard Bandler
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This is always what I hear when someone comes in saying that they are like a rug—everyone walks all over them. “I can’t say ‘no,’ no matter how hard I try.”

Then I went: “Really?” because the minute I hear this I hear the solution. I say “Really, well tell me ‘no!’” And they say they can’t do that. And I say “Well you just did!” and then they go “Oooh!!!”

“What did you think would happen if you said ‘no’ to people?” and they said: “Well I don’t know.”

“See, you said it again! Right now you are telling me you can’t say no and you just used it in a sentence.”

“Well, it’s not that kind of no!” and I said “Well that’s the kind you really need. You need the kind of knowing that you can say yes or no because you know: one takes you one way one takes you the other but if you say you can’t say ‘no’ then I think I’ve got you right there.” 

I mean, to me, now tell me this is not nonsense! Because I know that people who tell me they can’t say no are saying: “No no no I can’t say no!”

And that’s what I hear them saying. “No no no I can’t say no; I never say no and no one is going to make me!”

To me, I say that most of my clients walk in with their own solutions.
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#2
Do not use "no" and "but" or any other negative word when replying, it will immediately trigger the defensive mechanism of your target

Mess with the best, die like the rest.
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#3
You need to learn how to reject people in some point of your life, otherwise you will be wasting time everywhere doing fruitless things.
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#4
Me: give me all your money

Richard: (can't say no) okay
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#5
Can't say yes either! Wife ask you buy anything you buy you pokkai
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