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Talk And Don't Fight When You Are Drunk
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Sun Tzu once said “the supreme art of war is to subdue the enemy without fighting.” And that goes double when the drinks are flowing. People can get a bit hot-headed when they’re on the sauce, and in some cases, physical. Based on my experiences as a security guard, these smooth talking tips will help you calm an intense situation and escape a potential beating.
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Develop Your Aggro “Spidey-Sense”

The best way to get out of a fight is to avoid the possibility to begin with. That means developing your situational awareness and using your head. As Lawrence Kane and Kris Wilder explain in their book How to Win a Fight: A Guide to Avoiding and Surviving Violence, bar fights tend to happen after a certain time of night:
It’s not the hour on the clock that’s important, but rather the mood of the crowd. Most people have a good time and leave long before the shit starts. Just about everyone who’s going to hook up has already done so and is off having fun. As the crowd starts to thin, those who have nothing better to do than cause trouble are the ones who are left. Buzzing with frustration and raging hormones, those who insist on hanging on well into the night are the ones who get caught up in violence.
Look around the bar and sense the mood. Is there a guy brooding at the bar? Is there a gal loudly and angrily venting to her friend? Can you hear somebody trying to start something with somebody else? If so, it might be time to find another bar or head home. In my experience as a security guard for concert venues, bars, and clubs, there was always a turning point in the night when fun turned to chaos. Learn to get a feel for that turning point and get out before things get rough.

Keep Your Cool, Show Your Hands, and Make Your Intentions Clear

If you can’t make it out before you piss someone off and they get in your face, resist any urges to match their energy. If they insult you, don’t insult them back. If they push you, don’t push them back. If they stare you down, don’t give them the ol’ stink eye. As soon as you reciprocate the same energy, things are far more likely to escalate. Situations like this are not about pride. Your goal is to carry on with your night and get home safe, so ditch the ego.
Instead, do these three things in this exact order: take a deep breath, put your hands up in front of you with your palms facing them, and make it clear you don’t have any interest in fighting. The deep breath will help you keep calm and avoid matching their intensity levels. Putting your hands up, as Jay Ferrari explains at Men’s Health, shows that you’re not up for their offer to brawl and puts your hands at the ready to defend yourself if need be. Self-defense experts call this “the fence”—demonstrated in the video above—and the process is also great time to create space between you and the instigator.
And once you have your fence up, it is imperative you tell them that you don’t want any trouble. The sooner you can say something the better. In Martial Arts Revealed: Benefits, Problems, and Solutions, author Jamie Seabrook explains why:
To let a few minutes pass when being provoked spells disaster. This is because the potential attacker may think you are “toying” with him/her and that if you were truly not interested in fighting you would say so. Also, you are more likely to get upset and frustrated when the other person is calling you names and egging you on. As this occurs, the natural response is to retaliate back.

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